What makes it difficult to identify a guy who avoids closeness is that you have enough good times together, which keeps your hope alive. A woman might have a 10 or 11 year advantage with how they feel about significant life moments and how they deal with those feelings. I've had girlfriends and was very committed to them in those monogamous relationships. I think it involves circumstances and limitations that differ from man to man, and I don't believe it's necessarily the demise of a relationship. I was focused on her and only her. I don't believe emotional unavailability is a one size fits all phase of life.
Is it them having their cake and eating it too?
Read This If You’re In Love With An Emotionally Unavailable Man
When I'm emotionally unavailable, I don't care about any of that. He talks about how much he values his independence. I either swallow the tirade of words for him to understand my view, which is a waste of energy. I make an effort towards you whether it be romantic dates, carving out time for you every day in some form or other, fulfilling your emotional needs — doing more than just fucking you. You feel excluded from his life.